March 3, 2017 at 2:52 pm (Lists, Recommended, Wall Street Journal)
Tags: advice, Fridays, wisdom
For most people, worrying is a form of problem-solving where you look at challenges in the future and work them out before they happen, which can be constructive . . . But some people worry too much. Chronic worriers fret all the time, about everything. Pathological worriers are chronic worriers whose apprehension affects their functioning.
— Elizabeth Bernstein (from “You’re A Worrier? Don’t Worry”, p. A13, Wall Street Journal)
First, ask yourself: Are you a “chronic worrier”? Here’s a list of things you can do to end “chronic worrying” and be happy
- Start with a reality check. Is the emotion you’re feeling equivalent in intensity to the situation you are worrying about? Usually the answer is no.
- Tell yourself a better story rather than focusing on the worst-case scenario. Not only will this help you feel less negative, you will free your mind up to find solutions to your problem.
- Make a plan. Write down in detail how you will deal with the situation. It will seem more controllable.
- Set a timer. Give yourself 15 minutes to worry as much as you want. Then stop.
- Yell “Shred!” (in your head). Picture your worries going through a paper shredder. Visualize them being destroyed.
- Distract yourself with music, exercise, a good book or movie. It is hard to focus on the negative when you’re enjoying yourself.
February 8, 2017 at 10:39 pm (Artists and Writers, Books, Conversations, Recommended, Surprises)
Tags: fantasy, humor, Neil Gaiman, novel, reading lists, wisdom
- “That is why you are a good fortune teller,” said Zorya Utrennyaya. She looked sleepy, as if it were an effort for her to be up so late. “You tell the best lies.”
January 22, 2017 at 2:07 am (Recommended)
Tags: elections, essay, history, politics, Saturday, Vanity Fair, wisdom
The political arena has always held its attractions for business leaders who believe that wisdom picked up at the coal face of American industry can be applied to civics. On the surface, this seems like a natural transition. But it isn’t. Most people who succeed at business do so with a relentless, single-minded ego thrust that crushes the opposition and tosses aside the weaklings who stand in the way. Wait, that does sound like what it takes to win at national politics.
What’s interesting is . . . the way voters keep seizing on the idea that someone from the business world (Lee Iacocca? Ross Perot?) is the ideal candidate to lead us into the Promised Land when the only real business titan we’ve ever had as president was Herbert Hoover. And look how that worked out.
January 21, 2017 at 6:59 am (Uncategorized)
Tags: admiration, advice, disappointment, elections, Fridays, Hillary Clinton, inspiration, politics, wisdom
“I think that if you live long enough, you realize that so much of what happens in life is out of your control, but how you respond to it is in your control. That’s what I try to remember.”
December 27, 2016 at 6:24 pm (Books, Recommended, Wall Street Journal)
Tags: advice, essay, wisdom
We overschedule our days and complain constantly about being too busy. We shop endlessly for stuff we don’t need and then feel oppressed by the clutter that surrounds us. We rarely sleep well or enough. We compare our bodies to the artificial ones we see on television. We watch cooking shows and then eat fast food. We worry ourselves sick and join gyms we don’t visit. We keep up with hundreds of acquaintances but rarely see our best friends.
— Will Schwalbe’s Books for Living is just out from Knopf.
Stay tuned, dear blog readers. Stay tuned.