March 12, 2017 at 11:37 pm (Family, Sundays)
Tags: grief, memories, teaching, Tel Aviv
Nine years ago, this month, self was in Tel Aviv.
It is painful to read her blog posts from that time because her sister-in-law, Ying, eventually died there. September 11, 2008.
She got back from Tel Aviv, and self believes it was that same month when she got called in to the Dean’s office at Foothill and he asked her why she flunked two particular men — whose grade she had to change to a C. Even though they did not turn in a single assignment. They actually told the Dean that self threw something at them. And he believed them. Cause self is so YUUUUGE! She’s so fiery!!!
And, only months after, self’s stint as the only Asian American teacher (adjunct) in the English Dept. at Foothill was over. Because she got charged with discriminating against those two men.
Can you imagine the irony? The minority woman being accused of discriminating? Against two men?
Way to go, Dean! Enter slow clap emoji here.
If you can believe that self would do that (throw something) at two men who are obviously bullies, you would have to be nuts!
Nobody, absolutely nobody, believed self when she denied throwing anything. So then began endless years of wondering whether she had forgotten this incident?
And then came to the conclusion that, since she’s never thrown anything at anyone in her entire life, she couldn’t actually have thrown anything.
Case went up the complaint lines, until — after months of terror and stress — self changed the students’ grade.
Sucks to be an adjunct. Self’s just saying.
She wishes she could remember those two students’ names. Because they will forever know that if they bully a female teacher, all they have to do is accuse her of blah-blah-blah. Raise that ugly word. And voila! Done! Teacher’s toast!
Stay tuned, dear blog readers. Stay tuned.
December 29, 2016 at 12:35 am (Family)
Tags: Carrie Fisher, grief, transitions
A daughter should never die ahead of her mother.
It’s so not right.
This was probably what Debbie Reynolds was thinking as she started making arrangements for her daughter Carrie Fisher’s funeral.
Self is still not okay. Self will probably never be okay.
December 27, 2016 at 7:30 pm (Artists and Writers, Movies, Surprises, Women Writers)
Tags: grief, news, transitions
The Force wasn’t enough today.
RIP, Carrie Fisher.
2016, self is so done.
Vanishing Point, Capitola-by-the-Sea
December 23, 2016 at 2:29 am (Artists and Writers, Eavesdropping, Links, Movies, Recommended)
Tags: David Bowie, grief, music, reviews, transitions, websites
Early in January, David Bowie died, and then Alan Rickman four days later, and those twin losses now seem like the double toll of a warning bell whose somber echo would resonate through the year. 2016 was a year when the pillars that used to hold up our shared cultural universe wouldn’t stop crumbling around us. Prince? You expect us to somehow continue American pop music without Prince? Oh God, Gene Wilder. Oh no, Leonard Cohen.
— Dana Stevens, Slate movie critic, The Top 10 Movies of 2016
June 13, 2016 at 7:10 pm (Artists and Writers, Books, Personal Bookshelf)
Tags: 9/11, grief, Mondays, poetry
Some died while calling home to say they were OK.
Some called the telephone operators and were told to
Some died after over an hour spent learning they would die.
Some died so abruptly they may have seen death from inside it.
Some burned, their faces caught fire.
Some were asphyxiated.
Some broke windows and leaned into the sunny day.
Some were pushed out from behind by others in flames.
Some let themselves fall, begging gravity to speed them to
Some leapt hand in hand that their fall down the night sky might
happen more lightly.
— excerpt from “When the Towers Fell,” in the Galway Kinnell collection Strong Is Your Hold
June 12, 2016 at 7:21 pm (Flowers, Places, postaday, Surprises, Traveling)
Tags: England, grief, happiness, history, memories, New York, news, postaday, postaweek, Wordpress, World War II
Just two days ago, the sun was shining, all felt right with the world.
Central Park, New York, Friday 10 June 2016
And this was a picture self took in Bletchley Park, outside London, just a week ago:
Bletchley Park, Where World War II Codebreakers worked to turn the tide.
And another from Bletchley Park. The swans are exceedingly tame and are so used to people that they let children go right up to them and pet them.
The tamest swan self has ever encountered: Bletchley Park, June 2016
In solidarity with the people of Orlando, Florida.
January 11, 2016 at 5:16 pm (Artists and Writers, Links, Surprises)
Tags: grief, memories, Mendocino, Mondays, music, transitions
Self absolutely hates the fact that, when she sat at her desk this morning to begin her tasks for the day, the first thing she saw after logging on was this:
DAVID BOWIE, 69, DIES OF CANCER
Oh Ziggy Stardust!
Mourn, mourn, mourn.
In honor of his passing, today Food & Wine posted a recipe of what was apparently Bowie’s favorite dish: Shepherd’s Pie.
December 9, 2015 at 1:54 pm (Recommended)
Tags: essay, grief, memories, news, nonfiction, Scotland, The New Yorker
Self is reading Patrick Radden Keefe’s New Yorker article “The Avenger,” about the brother of a man killed in Lockerbie.
Self read in the Stanford Alumni Magazine, not too long ago, that the father of yet another victim, a lawyer, had died of cancer. The man was tireless in aiding the hunt for his daughter’s killers, even putting up reward money. As self would do too, if she were in his shoes.
Three years ago, self was in Hawthornden Writers Retreat, only 40 minutes by bus from Edinburgh. Every time she took the bus back, she saw the sign for Lockerbie.
The New Yorker article is about Ken Dorstein, a sophomore at Brown whose brother David had been on the plane.
This is what he did:
He traveled to Scotland and spent several weeks in Lockerbie interviewing investigators and walking through the pastures where the plane had gone down. He read the transcript of the Scottish Fatal Accident Inquiry, which exceeded fifteen-thousand pages, and he located the patch of grass where David’s body had landed.
Dorstein tells The New Yorker: “I had found a less painful way to miss my brother, by not missing him at all, just trying to document what happened to his body.”
He also married his brother’s ex-girlfriend. When he told his wife that he wanted to go to Libya to confront the “culprits who were still alive,” he invoked what they call in their marriage “the Lockerbie dispensation.” She could not refuse him.
Dorstein showed the New Yorker reporter a large map of Lockerbie, “with hundreds of colored pushpins indicating where the bodies had fallen.” In death, as in life, there were divisions: first-class passengers clustered in one place, economy passengers in another (But isn’t it interesting that they all ended up in the same place anyway: which is to say, dead)
Self has to finish reading the article.
May 28, 2015 at 4:02 pm (Books, Personal Bookshelf, Weather, Women Writers)
Tags: Cassandra Clare, Clockwork Princess, England, grief, Jessamine, London, novel, praise, seaaons, Will Herondale
Self must have read the last chapters of Clockwork Princess about a dozen times. She loves Cassandra Clare’s descriptions:
Winter had always seemed the purest season to Will — even the smoke and dirt of London caught by the chill, frozen and hard and clean. That morning he had broken a layer of ice that had formed on his water jug, before splashing the icy fluid onto his face and shivering as he looked in the mirror, his wet hair painting his face in black stripes. First Christmas morning without Jem in six years.
Of course, that description is followed by the materialization of the ghost of Jessamine:
She raised her head, looking up at the snow. Though it fell all around her, she was as untouched by it as if she stood under glass.
LOVE that scene!
Thank you, Cassandra Clare. Thank you.