And the Doctor Will See You Now . . .

Self has been a voracious consumer of writing by doctors, for over two decades.

For a while, her short story, “Lenox Hill, December 1991″ (published in the first Charlie Chan is Dead anthology) was taught in a Pennsylvania medical school, in an “Ethics of Medicine” class.  It wasn’t really a short story, self will admit right now.  It was memoir.  It was about her sister.

Now, she is reading the latest in a long line of fascinating books that began with Sherwin Nuland’s How We Die, and included books by Oliver Sacks, Atul Gawande, Abraham Verghese (many of whose writings she first encountered in The New Yorker) and Stanford psychiatrist Irwin Yalom.  The last such book she read (before How Doctors Think) was Christine Montross’s Body of Work:  Meditations on Mortality From the Human Anatomy Lab, which was one of her favorite reads of last year.  She liked the Montross book so much, she even recommended it to her nephew William, Dear Departed Sister’s second child, who’s now in medical school in Washington University in St. Louis.

And now she’s reading Jerome Groopman’s How Doctors Think.  And she simply can’t put it down.

In the section self just finished reading, a middle-aged single woman named Rachel decides to go the solo mothering route and adopts a baby from Vietnam.  The baby was supposed to have been “released” at six months, but two months before Rachel was expecting to fly to Vietnam, she received a call that the adoption had been expedited, and she could pick up the baby in July.

Rachel arrived at the hospital in Vietnam, and was momentarily confused because the baby she was shown was much thinner than in the photographs she had been receiving.  She was so overjoyed, however, that she didn’t question the hospital staff, and took the baby back with her to the United States.

On the flight home, the baby hardly slept, and hardly sucked.  Rachel was fortunate that she had a relative who was a pediatrician, and she asked for advice.  The relative said it sounded as if the baby was dangerously dehydrated.  “Take her to an emergency room right now,” the relative advised Rachel.

And this was the beginning of a long, long excruciating journey in which the baby’s mouth was discovered to be covered in fungus, which was spreading, and that her lungs were clotted with pneumonia virus.  And the woman Rachel absolutely never gave up.  Then, shortly after dawn on September 11, 2001 –

Yes, you read right, dear blog readers.  Shortly after dawn on September 11, 2001, the latest tests on the baby showed her to be at last free of infection!

And Rachel was so overwhelmed with joy that she decided to share the news with a member of her church, and called her from a payphone in the hospital.  The woman seemed to hesitate and then told Rachel:  “Turn on your TV.”

!!!!

Rachel brought her baby daughter home, 45 days later.  This story, at least, has a happy ending.

Stay tuned, dear blog readers.  Stay tuned.

Special About 2012

After many years of trying, she finally got a piece picked up by Alimentum.

She finally joined the Barnes & Noble Rewards Program (though it’s been in her vicinity for 30 years)

The New Orleans Review took “Thing,” her story about mutant pigs and strangelings.

She has joined contests (8 so far)

She decided not to let her subscription to The New York Times Book Review lapse.

She extended her New Yorker subscription for one more year.

She read with Kazim Ali, Garrett Hongo, David Henry Hwang, Bao Phi, Marie Myung-Ok Lee and Anna Kazumi Stahl in the National Portrait Gallery.  Also:  she met the three funniest gals it was ever her pleasure to meet and had drop-dead delicious gelato.  Also, she met Lawrence and Gerard.  Also, she saw the Ford Theater (where President Lincoln was shot) and went into at least three Smithsonian museums (with the husband).  She even went to Georgetown one day and had lunch with an old friend.

She spoke to Margarita D who told her about her plan to go to Venice, early next year (Self volunteered to come along)

She went to India.  And saw the Golden Temple at Amritsar.  And heard monks chanting deep in a forest.  And made the acquaintance of the Colonel, Pratibha, an incorrigibly rambunctious Labrador, and the two brothers who manage the Snowcrest Inn in Dharamsala (Would you believe, the inn is owned by a fifty-something Malaysian woman?)  All the time self was in India, she never experienced a sick moment.

“The Avengers” movie came out, and she liked it.

She spent the entire month of March in Bacolod.  Zack joined her for the last week.

She took Niece G to the Asian Art Museum and had lunch at Brenda’s.

Niece G gifted her with a lb. of coffee from Philz.

Son and Jennie came for a visit; we had dinner at Max’s Restaurant with Kramer and Niece G.  We went to a Jean Paul Gaultier exhibit at the de Young.  We went to the Japanese Tea Garden and had mochi.  Kevin F came over with his guitar on son’s last night and sang many beautiful songs for us.

She finally got her hands on a paperback copy of the Final Report of the 9/11 Commission, which was published in 2004.  It is a really hefty book:  she’ll read it on the plane to London.

Stay tuned, dear blog readers.  Stay tuned.

4 Books From The New Yorker’s Briefly Noted, 2 April 2012/ The Travails of a Wednesday

The first two books on this list are novels; the last two are nonfiction:

A Partial History of Lost Causes, by Jennifer Dubois

“An American woman, fleeing a slow and humiliating death from Huntington’s disease, arrives in Russia in search of an answer to a question posed by her dead father:  What is the proper way to proceed when playing a game one is destined to lose?”

These Dreams of You, by Steve Erickson

“An unemployed professor and former novelist finds himself ineffectually resisting bankruptcy and foreclosure; his wife becomes obsessed with finding their Ethiopian daughter’s natural mother, who may be alive and in trouble.”

Brave Dragons, by Jim Yardley

“Yardley provides incisive accounts of basketball’s history in China and of the N.B.A.’s desire to monetize its popularity there, alongside colorful portraits of the players and hangers-on.”

Monty and Rommel, by Peter Caddick-Adams

“Near-contemporaries, both men were wounded in the First World War and became Field Marshalls in the Second.  Both, Caddick-Adams suggests, were master communicators, and perhaps should not have been promoted from the battlefield, where they excelled, to a strategic level, where they did not.”

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This has turned out to be quite a trying week, dear blog readers.

For one thing, the husband has been playing this tiresome charade where he pretends to be sick and coughs right in her face.  This, she knows, is because she is about to leave for Scotland, where he imagines she is going to go wild downing bottles of Talisker (On the other hand, things could be worse:  the man could actually be sick, in which case, it will only be a matter of hours — no, minutes! –  before she herself is laid flat with the viral flu)

Self has told him time and time again that she is going away to work.  Not only that, she has looked up the temperature in that part of Scotland and the lows are 43 degrees.  She decides to compare to Redwood City (which is quite chilly today, self is wearing three T-shirts and one pullover, as well as thick socks, and because the wind is so brisk, she has decided not to step out of the house at all) and feels quite faint when the temperature for her area, right now, is 70-something degrees.  She thinks back to Dharamsala and remembers how she shivered under four comforters, even with the heater right next to her bed and going all night (It was one of those old-fashioned coil ones, it reminded her vaguely of a Westinghouse electric fan, and she dreaded knocking it over in her sleep because she was sure she would end up burning to death), and she’s already decided to pack sweaters and thermals and thick socks and woolen scarves, etc etc etc

She happened to give a call to British Airways and was informed that there are no airports in the vicinity of Cambridge (where she has a friend she’d like to meet), and she’s better off going to London and catching a train south.  “Cambridge is south?” self repeated, rather stupidly, and the British Airways woman said, “You are heading to Edinburgh, which is north.  And Cambridge is in the other direction.  South.”

This reminds her of the time, just a week before she left for her first trip to India, when she ended up asking the husband whether New Delhi was near Calcutta. (Her brain feels like it’s been on hold for the past year, dear blog readers.  Perhaps one day, she’ll put it all down, in a book)

Bella The Ancient One got stuck three times in the doggy door.  But it is The Ancient One’s heroics that truly move self, for the dog is about a hundred-plus years old (in equivalent human years) :  still she crawls manfully through that damn doggy door, up and down a flight of stairs to the backyard, to pee.  Self has suggested to hubby that we put a ramp over the stairs, but he thinks it is good exercise for The Ancient One to go up and down steps.

The vet just called, asking why self had not yet picked up The Ancient One’s pain pills ($86 for a month’s supply)

Son called and mentioned that he wanted to know how much it cost to rent a car for a week, and self replied that she couldn’t remember but suggested he try Dollar.  She reminded him to mention that he is a Triple-A member, for the 10% discount.

What else?  She got form rejections from Third Coast and Tin House.  She persists in thinking that the one from Tin House was slightly encouraging.  It was worded:  “Sorry to have to turn you down this time.”  It’s those last two words, “this time,” that self keeps re-playing in her head.  They must really want her work, self thinks.  Or why would they even bother to put “this time”!!!  Perhaps she didn’t get the standard standard rejection, just the medium standard rejection.  Or the slightly standard rejection.  Whatever it is, self is sure she didn’t get the out-and-out rejection from Tin House.

(Which neighbor is it that keeps trundling trash cans back and forth across the sidewalk?  She swears she must have heard that dragging-the-trash-can sound at least five different times in the last two hours.  Every time she peeks out, the sidewalk is empty, and the trash cans are still in place.  Maybe it’s just some kid, dragging his skateboard across the cement . . . )

Stay tuned, dear blog readers.  Stay tuned.

First Redwood City Farmers Market of 2012!

The Redwood City Farmers Market re-opened two or three weeks ago, but today was the first Saturday that self was actually able to make it over.

Joy!!!

The sun was shining, it was a warm day, and there was Julie, the Vietnamese lady, with her bags of oranges.

Self searched for cilantro, but since it was already close to noon, no cilantro was left.

It’s OK!  Self was just happy to be alive!  And at the Farmer’s Market!

And then self went home.  And, as it happened, the husband was avidly watching a European soccer match, Chelsea (England) against a German team (Munich?).  Chelsea won on a penalty kick, and afterwards the husband, who had consumed a whole bottle of wine, so worked up was he by the heroics of the Chelsea team, fell conveniently asleep, and self was able to revise a 32-page story before he woke up.

Well, actually, self finally had to prod him awake around 6 p.m., because she needed him to tell whether the fresh salmon she bought yesterday should be broiled or steamed.  Besides which, if she had let him sleep until 9 or 10 p.m., he’d have been up all night, and self reserves the night-time hours just for herself, and would be in a veeeery bad mood if he kept interrupting her.

You see how this marriage works, dear blog readers?  It has been engineered to provide self with the maximum amount of writing time, and so far self would consider it pretty successful, for she’s managed to complete four or five books, three of which are published.  And that’s despite the fact that she raised son almost single-handedly, for visits from her family were few and far between, and besides she had no maids.  And the husband was always working.  So self attended an inordinate amount of Mothers Club meetings (After all those years attending Mothers Club meetings, it really is too bad that self only managed to get one story out of them:  “Restraining Order,” which was published in the on-line journal of the Santa Fe Writers Project), and one year she felt so intrepid that she actually volunteered to be Field Trip Mom.  This was a lot of fun, until one stressful day when the third grade boys all decided to go bananas in the public toilet of a museum, and self had to scream at them, but nobody listened until Mrs. Stevens came storming in and yelled, in a voice 5x louder than self’s:  THAT’S ENOUGH!  ALL OF YOU, GET OUT!

The next week, self submitted her resignation as Field Trip Mom.

And now, self has wandered away from the ostensible subject of this post, and it takes her a minute or two to remember . . . oh yes!  The 32-page story!

Because, nowadays, everyone wants you to submit on-line, she sent the 32-page story out immediately, to about three different magazines.

Oh what an efficient woman is self!

Stay tuned, dear blog readers.  Stay tuned.

Was Going to Post Again About World War II

Self was going to post again about World War II but decided it would be too overwhelming and depressing.  Especially since she was going to post about May 10, 1941, when, according to Nicholson Baker, “more than one hundred thousand books burned in the British Museum,” and more Christopher Wren churches succumbed — St. Stephen’s Walbrook, St. Mildred’s, St. Nicholas Cole Abbey, St. Mary-le-Bow.

Lighten up, self!

Today, she went for a mani/pedi, and the girl doing her pedicure offered to give self a half-hour foot massage which was so good that self actually fell asleep, but she knew she was wide awake when she was told the bill was $100.

Self was going to go for a bright orange shade for her nails, but the girl who co-manages the salon urged self to try a darker shade, especially when she learned self would be in Scotland in a few weeks.  “People in Scotland don’t see orange nails very often.  Why don’t you wait until you come back?  The orange can be your California nails!”

Sold!

Self really wished, though, she had stuck to the orange.

She keeps wondering what would happen if she had pink or purple streaks applied to her hair?  And arrived that way in Hawthornden?

Self finally got to see the picture of herself sitting on her Lolo Gener’s lap.  He was thin, frail-looking, in a wheelchair.  Self’s mom and sister were sitting next to her:  her sister was on Dearest Mum’s lap.

This, self understands, was the picture they used in the slide show which her cousins put together for her Tita Lily’s 93rd birthday party in Bacolod, two months ago.  Self got Bongbong of the Sum-ag church to design a nice bouquet, in which he used actual apples.  She was about to bring a cake, but at the last minute decided on the floral bouquet.  Zack arrived in the middle of the party and sat next to her, and no one knew who he was and everyone was very confused.  Anyhoo, it was a great party, with lechon that was simply to die for, an entertainment show with really energetic dancers, and a mass.  Also, a dessert which self learned is called “Black Sambo” because it consists of two colors of pudding!!!

In the photograph, Dearest Mom looked slim and gorgeous and amazing.  Self had a very round head that reminded her of a cabbage.

Now, in the interest of “keeping it light,” self is looking through Cannes fashion.

She doesn’t know what happened to a) Vanessa Hudgens (in nude-colored, one-shoulder Grecian style gown:  she looked 10 years older, and had a somewhat sullen look on her face)  b) Rosario Dawson actually looks good in neutral colors, but the real knockouts were Diane Kruger and Gemma Arterton.  Self knows because she wandered to a site called, she thinks, “Cannes Style.” On the InStyle magazine website.

BTW, dear blog readers, self thinks her posting from Scotland will be quite spotty.  There is no internet in the Castle.  It’s a bus ride (45 minutes) to Edinburgh.  First, she’ll have to walk to the bus stop from the Castle, and that’s a good 20 minutes walk if you’re in shape.  As self is NOT in shape, it’ll take her 40 minutes.  The next time she’ll have internet is probably when she gets to Amsterdam.  But she’ll be there with friend Bonnie, Bonnie’s daughter, and a grandfather.  So who’ll have time to blog?  It’ll be spotty for a while, but self promises to blog regularly in Paris!  Which she heads to after Amsterdam.

She’ll again miss Bastille Day in the City of Light because the husband wants her home as soon as possible, so she can start taking care of The Ancient One and the garden and the laundry.  But of course, she couldn’t go to England without seeing Paris!  Since the two countries are almost side by side, what’s a wee channel?

Here are a few things self has learned about Scotland:

  • It is thinking of breaking away from the United Kingdom.
  • They make some of the best artisanal chocolates in the world.
  • Talisker is made in the Isle of Skye.
  • They make pretty good cheddar in Edinburgh.

Also, it rains every day over there, and night temperatures sink down to 47 degrees.  Here, in the San Francisco Bay Area, night temperatures are in the high 60s, and already self feels so cold that she can’t go to sleep without thick socks and a head scarf.

But, self struggles to assure herself, surely nothing could be colder than Dharamsala!  And see how self endured that cold, with only one small portable heater standing between her and freezing to death?

Stay tuned, dear blog readers.  Stay tuned.

Times You Wish Would Never End

Today, bright and early, self was at the Ferry Building Farmer’s Market.  The weather was bee-yoo-ti-ful!  There were musicians, there was a man who did interesting things with a small red ball balanced on the top of his head, there was a kid whose bones seemed to be made of jell-o, who did jive moves and the Michael Jackson Moonwalk and amazed a crowd of spectators.  Self wound up buying a small jar of lavender salt, a pack of (non-dairy) cinnamon rolls, and some fresh apple Read the rest of this entry »

San Francisco: Gallivanting

Wednesday, with Jennie and Son, waiting for Niece G at 23rd and Folsom

Niece G told self a few months ago that this will be her last year in San Francisco –  WAAAAH!  San Francisco just won’t be the same without her.

Self took this picture by a pond in the Japanese Tea Garden in Golden Gate Park, Wednesday afternoon.  (It was chilly!)

Stay tuned, dear blog readers.  Stay tuned.

Siquijor: Wearing the Earrings Jennie Made

Self asked Zack to take her picture. She wanted to show Jennie that she was wearing the earrings Jennie made.

In February, just before leaving for Bacolod, self paid son a visit.  She had a fabulous time! On the day she left, Jennie presented her with the earrings, which she’d made herself.

Self was so touched, she told Jennie:  “I’ll wear them every day in Bacolod.”

Then she figured she needed a picture, to show Jennie.  And since she was usually by herself in Bacolod, except for the week that Zack joined her, she never did get to have a picture of herself wearing the earrings.

So there were Zack and self, in Siquijor.  We’d just gotten off the ferry, and walked up the hill a little way, to get to the market and catch a jeep that would take us to the town of Lasi.

Before catching the jeep, we stopped to investigate a pizza place.  This restaurant actually had “Pizza” on the sign, but we were told the pizza had yet to be made, and since we were in a hurry, we ended up ordering from the turo-turo.  Very delicious food, though!  Self had banana palm hearts in coconut milk and sauteed kangkong and plain rice.

And that’s when she said to Zack, “Quick, take my picture.  I have to show Jennie I’m wearing her earrings.”

Stay tuned, dear blog readers.  Stay tuned.

Cleaning

There are all kinds of things self dredges up from the nooks and crannies of son’s room.

While other empty-nesters of self’s acquaintance quickly converted their college children’s rooms into guest rooms, not self.  She has preserved every scrap of paper, every poster, every letter.  Son’s room is like a Museum, the Museum of Childhood.  Nothing has changed, except that now self uses son’s bookshelves to array her own books, which would take over the entire house if she let it.

There was the time, several years ago, when she stumbled across a card that said:

A, Read the rest of this entry »

1st Wednesday Post-Washington DC Trip: Cleaning the House

It is another gorgeous day.  Self’s hands are full of little cuts from pruning and re-planting a small rose bush.  The old wound, the one she got just a few days before leaving for Washington DC, is completely healed.

She wonders if she should bother getting a pedicure.  In anticipation of son and Jennie visiting next week.  And besides, with the weather warming up, it is so nice to have pretty toe-nails to show off when wearing sandals.  While self and the husband were in DC, self couldn’t help noticing that blue and yellow and lime green were popular among the women of DC.  The ones, that is, who were wearing sandals on the gorgeous last day of the trip, Sunday 15 April, when the husband and self were strolling from one museum to another.

Niece G is so excited to see son and Jennie, and so is self.  In fact, the whole world is excited, because yesterday afternoon, self started a conversation with her neighbor, Claudio, and after she told him that son and his girlfriend would be visiting next week, Claudio said to be sure they stop by to say hello.  He’ll even serve them Prosecco, and then he might ask son and Jennie to show off some fancy dance moves, because Claudio’s wife Mary loves to dance.

Anyhoo, as self just got through saying, it is a gorgeous day, and her pants are tight.  She lives in absolute horror of returning to Bacolod and hearing the laundry woman at L’Fisher Chalet say:  “Tumaba ka.” (You’ve gotten fat).  During self’s most recent Bacolod visit, the laundry woman said it, at least three times.  Then she added this final dagger in self’s heart:  “If you keep gaining weight, the next time you come, WHAT will you look like?”

The only solution is to not eat.  Not eat for days.

Self has also undertaken to poke into the backs of all her cabinet drawers, and she keeps pulling out sheets of yellowing newspaper.  One sheet is wrapped around a still-unopened package labeled:

GENUINE CAMIAS

Bulong Sa Nervios, Suloksulok, Panuko, Panlibang Kurog, Malaria Kag Bulao

Self thinks this is Ilonggo, not Tagalog.  And she is proven correct when she reads, at the bottom of the label, the words ILOILO PHILIPPINES.

In addition, she comes across a very old newspaper called Ohlone College Monitor.  She has a feeling she hung on to it for one reason only.  Again, self is proven correct, for at the bottom of p. 1 is an article titled “Filipino Writer Speaks to Class.”

Of course, it’s about herself.  The writer is Clarissa Aljentera (probably has a husband and three kids by now:  the issue is dated 1997!)

Here’s an excerpt:

She was on campus last Tuesday night to speak to the Filipino American Literature class.

She is the author of the book Ginseng and Other Tales From Manila.  This was about the time when Ferdinand Marcos was in power in the Philippines.

However, this wasn’t her first published work.  She had written “Siko” as part of the book The Forbidden Stitch.  After that anthology came out in 1989, her name started to get spread around the Filipino-American community.

Okey-dokey!  Must get back to cleaning.  Stay tuned!

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